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A few of weeks ago we asked you to tell us where in your life you'd like some guidance. And you told us. So we've been busy!!
The good kind of busy - the kind that feels like a privilege actually.
And again, we are grateful to you all for sharing your thoughts, wishes and curiosities and today we are thrilled to bits to be able to share with you our first ever workbook!
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ABOUT THE AUTHORS
Sally wants to help create a world of compassion for ourselves and others. A world where mistakes are allowed, gender roles don’t exist, sex ed in schools is a real thing and everyone dances – lovely! As a psychologist and psychotherapist in Ireland, she’s worked for nearly twenty years in private practice, with adults and trainee adults of all ages. She blogs on her own website, is a feature writer for super duper parenting website Voiceboks.com, does print and radio media work and has been known to Tweet. She’s the one running our Twitter page!
When she’s not working, you will find her engrossed in Science Fiction or some dark and Danish TV show, listening to music, watching the sea (while really, really wishing it were warmer), or figuring out how to work Lightroom on her Mac. All while munching on Bombay mix.
She’s happiest when dancing and erm…. her cat has his own Facebook page. We won’t link to that, it’s too embarrassing..
Tanya looks forward to living in a world where people know their worth, respect boundaries, and always have time for tea and chocolate. A magic bubble that protects her from sticky fingers, hormonal girls and dog hair would be awesome as well.
Her education and much of her training is in the areas of psychology and human potential. She worked as a licensed psychologist for over 14 years, with 10 of those years spent building her own successful private practice. In total, she has over 20 years of varied experience working, volunteering for non-profit agencies, and consulting to small business. Most recently she has launched her dream online coaching practice where she gets to work with motivated, amazing women who need help overcoming life’s hurdles. Exciting times!
She has lived in Ireland, Ethiopia (okay, just 6 months), Canada, and currently lives in central Texas with her husband, three girls (including fraternal twins), two dogs and three cats.
When she’s not finding ‘everyday moments’ to write about here or on her own blog, you can find her being walked by her dogs, unearthing unidentifiable food-objects under the couch cushions or baking her famous banana bread.
Tanya runs our Facebook page – and not to be outdone by Sally’s cat, her dog has its own Facebook page too.
Article by Richard Morley
Edited by Maureene Danielle
Blog post design by Christy Zigweid
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I know I have not posted recently – but I’ll give myself a bit of a break because we had a new arrival – the birth of our (second) son Carter. So it seemed apt to start writing again following this post from The Duchess of Cambridge about the mental health of young children.
I definitely won’t claim to have had a bad or traumatic childhood – I am lucky to have grown up with two loving parents.
Thinking of the future, I would like to make sure that I prioritize the mental health of my sons more than I prioritized my own. I want to make sure they are supported, listened to (without me worrying that I’m not doing enough as a parent) and encouraged to talk about their feelings. I want them to be equipped to deal with the things that life has to throw at them, because I’m already learning that as parents we can’t always change what happens to our children in life (as much as we might want to). Most importantly I want them to be able to be there for each other.
Our children will deal with more pressure and stress than we ever thought possible as children. Social media and our now ‘always connected’ environment through mobile devices simply didn’t exist when we were growing up – but now it’s a part of normal life.
A life that as parents we won’t understand – to put it into context; I didn’t have a mobile phone until I was 17 (and I think I was an early adopter) I know children as young as 11 who have iPhones – and its estimated that smartphones are now in the hands of up to 80% of secondary school children. We are with our children in the evenings, at the weekends, when we do things as a family – but they are often on their own when they are using their smartphones, in the digital world.
How do we start to reduce the stigma around mental health issues? Talking about our own mental health and feelings (appropriately of course) as parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, guardians, the list goes on; has to be the best example to set – to create an environment where our children can be open, no matter what the problem – by simply making it a normal part of family life
We’ve got to get started, if this survey by the DfE on twitter is anything to by…
So to steal the hashtags from two brilliant campaigns around mental health it’s #timetotalk because #youngmindsmatter
About the Author
Richard Morley is an advocate for mental illness. You can find out more by visiting: http://worrymuch.co.uk/about/
You can also find Richard on Twitter
Mental Health Flash Cards are a tool designed to distract us from all of our distractions.
They are supposed to help us refocus on the important things and truths in our lives.
Mental illness took a lot more than my happiness and physical health in my teens and 20’s. It took away my confidence, hope, faith, and trust in myself and others. I went into isolation, away from friends, family, and society for over 5 years because I felt like no one understood me, nor would they ever. I felt like people were always giving me advice such as “go for a walk, read a book, volunteer,” which is great, but they did not realize that I did not even have the tools to do this.
I could not walk, not because my legs would not move, but I did not even have the thought or confidence in myself that I could actually accomplish a short walk. It was like I had a mental paralysis and I could not connect the dots from me staring at a wall in my room to actually achieving a walk.
There are a ton of things that have to happen in between these 2 events. For example, getting my breakfast; I would have to put on clothes (preferably one’s that I would be comfortable walking in), I would need to have the confidence to show my face in public, I would have to know how to communicate (or at least understand simple things like traffic and pedestrian laws, directions, balance, strength, resilience, etc.)
Sometimes I wonder if it would have been easier if the person that came in to tell me “go for a walk,” also added, “Hey Joe, I know it is hard, but I have faith in you. You used to walk just fine a few years back. I can walk with you. We can get in at least a mile today, and I promise we will work on it until you are comfortable walking again. You are strong. You can do this. I will be there if you start to feel dizzy or anxious. I will never judge you.” By looking at these cards we can start to rebuild all of the things that are broken that others, including doctors cannot see.
Mental Health Flash Cards are your coach when you cannot afford a coach. Mental Health Flash Cards are your friend, when you cannot find a friend. Mental Health Flash Cards are designed to bring your focus back to you, because in the end you need to be happy with you before you can start accomplishing tasks for others again. I hope this tool helps you and I look forward to making more and sharing them with you.
Thank you and remember, I have faith in you.
Joseph S. Fusaro credits writing with helping him dig his way out of a serious bout with bipolar 1 (manic depression) in his late teens and 20's. Joe was a cast member in the 'This Is My Brave' New York City show this past October and looks forward to using his experience with mental illness to help others realize there is hope for a positive and productive future. In addition to music and poetry Joe has blogged for the mental health organizations NAMI, Conquer Worry, and This Is My Brave. Joe published his first book, a chap book featuring poetry and lyrics he's written, called A Little More Time and it's available for purchase on Amazon.com. A portion of the proceeds from the book are donated to This Is My Brave.
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Article by Jay Coulter
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The great NFL quarterback Peyton Manning has officially retired. While his 18 year football career has produced Superbowl titles and amazing statistics, I believe there are six traits that he demonstrated that could help anyone struggling with a stressful period or their mental health.
March 5th, 1997 he announced that he would return to The University of Tennessee for his senior year instead of heading off for NFL riches. I remember sitting in my car listening to his press conference. These were his words:
Apparently it was a difficult decision for the young Peyton Manning, but he knew that he would never get the chance to be a college QB again and decided that was what held a higher priority for him. The NFL would be there after he finished his senior year.
Lesson - Prioritize what is important to you today and make that your focus.......tomorrow will take care of itself.
After the 1997 season, Peyton finished second in the prestigious Heisman Trophy voting to Charles Woodson. (1815 votes to 1543 votes). It was a shock to a lot of people in the sports world, but it was an especially sharp blow to Tennessee fans and their star QB. In defeat, Peyton Manning was as humble and stoic as you would expect. It has served him well. Recently he had this to say about Mr. Woodson:
Lesson - When life disappoints you, be gracious and move on because the past is just that......the past.
The easiest trait to quantify is Peyton's perseverance. Manning had 45 4th quarter comebacks and 56 game winning drives. Those are NFL records and beyond mind stretching. Below are two of my personal favorites:
I was fortunate enough to watch many of his comeback with my son and the lesson is always the same.
Lesson - Always remember that the battle, no matter how bleak it appears, is not over unless you give up.
Obviously every game he played did not result in victory. In fact, one of the best traits he demonstrated, by example, was after his devastating 43-8 loss to the Seahawks in Superbowl 48. He had 2 interceptions and his offense that had put up amazing statistics during the regular season looked inept. Seattle's defense was lead by Richard Sherman and this is what he said after the game:
"When I was limping up to my press conference and trying to make it up the stairs, somebody taps me on the shoulder and extends their hand and asks if I'm all right......My eyes try to make it up to see who it is, and it's Peyton ... fully dressed in a suit and obviously very concerned about my well-being. You know, after a game like that, biggest stage ever -- to ask how you're doing and really be generally concerned about an opponent, that shows an incredibly different amount of humility and class." - Richard Sherman on Peyton Manning after Superbowl 48 (Link)
Lesson - When you feel stigmatized by your struggle, you can still win by rising above it all and showing class.
Manning's career came to a halt when he had to sit out the 2011 season due to an injury. At the end of the season, the only NFL franchise he has ever played for released him. This was devastating for Manning. In the offseason before the move to Denver, Manning spent 2.5 months with his former college offensive coordinator David Cutcliff. They tirelessly worked to rebuild his throwing motion. (Source) By the end of Manning’s 2013 season he had amassed 5,477 yards, 55 touchdowns and 342.3 yards per game, all of which are NFL records, and finished with a 121.1 QB rating. (Link)
Lesson - Sometimes personal reinvention is a necessity.
During his final season in the NFL (2015), Manning sustained an injury to his foot. Just incase you do not know the story, he sat out for 6 games and rejoined the team in the final game of the season as a back-up. During the final game, the starting quarterback had a tough game and Peyton was brought into the line-up in relief. He managed to lead the team to a comeback victory and then stayed at the helm until their eventual Superbowl victory. But, that is not the story in my opinion. The story is the relentless work he put in to the rehab process prior to rejoining the team. His resilience and commitment to preparation allowed him to earn back his job and lead the team to the Superbowl victory.
Lesson - Work hard even when things are not going your way, because you never know when you will get the call to get back in the game.
Jay Coulter is a Mental Health Blogger, Podcast Producer and founder of ConquerWorry.org™. The platform is a volunteer run organization dedicated to inspiring, educating and advocating for those who struggle with their mental health. ConquerWorry™ has almost 150,000 social media followers and we would love to have you in our community which can be found online and on most social media platforms.
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