How To Change Your Self-Talk

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
                  ― Oscar Wilde

This “I AM” exercise is designed to help you create a positive mental state and reduce your negative self talk. The program takes some work on the front end, but in my experience it has provided fantastic results. This is our version of a program that the late Zig Ziglar used to teach in some of his personal development programs. I believe he called it an “affirmation” and supported and reinforced the exercise with flashcards. The affirmation was three or four paragraphs long and you are asked to repeat it in the morning and evening. The ConquerWorry™ “I AM” mantra is a simpler and customized exercise.
 
A mantra is generally considered to be a word or sound that is repeated to aid concentration, particularly in meditation. It can also be a statement or slogan that is repeated frequently. The word finds its roots in both Hinduism and Buddhism.
 
Building your Mantra

The first step in the process requires self-reflection. I highly recommend getting up early in the morning, grabbing a cup of coffee and a blank notepad. Stay away from your computer or tablet for this exercise as it is too easy to find distractions on electronic devices. Write down a list of positive adjective that describe you. Don't be humble! Once you have an initial list, ask your spouse or a good friend for their thoughts. If you are not comfortable with sharing your list, you don’t have to, but it should not stop you from doing this exercise.
 
Once you have your entire list of adjectives, it is very easy to construct your mantra. It looks something like this:
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I am adjective, adjective and adjective.
I am adjective, adjective and adjective.
 
Then, personalize the sentences. Look at the example below for ideas, but please customize it to yourself.
 
Example:

I am adventurous, creative and charming.
I am also empathic, intelligent and forgiving of not only others but myself as well.
 
Repeat this to yourself twice a day. You will be amazed at how your self-talk changes!

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This exercise is an exert from Jay's new book entitled Conquer Worry - How To Build A Simple Daily System To Reduce Stress 

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Jay Coulter is an author, keynote speaker and mental health coach. He is the author of Conquer Worry - How To Build A Simple Daily System To Reduce Stress. He is also the founder of ConquerWorry.org™. The platform is a volunteer run organization dedicated to inspiring, educating and advocating for those who struggle with their mental health. ConquerWorry™ has almost 150,000 social media followers and we would love to have you in our community which can be found online and on most social media platforms.

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